You Are Validated
Posted by Mitch Mitchell on Dec 9, 2010
A couple of days ago, someone posted a link to the video below. It's terrible that it took me so long to get to it, but when I saw it was 16 minutes long I just said to myself that it could wait until I had time for it.
When I watched it I loved it. The video is titled "Validation", and if you watch it you'll love it, I promise you. It made me think of how most of us go through our days interacting with people who we sometimes see aren't having a great go of it. But we take care of our business and move on. Sometimes it's people we know, people in the workplace, people we see at social events, and we just want to get beyond them.
I know why that is. It's because we're afraid of those folks bringing us down. When I was an every day manager I could walk into the office and know when the mood was bad, and sometimes I let it impact me. Sometimes I would try to track down who it might be that was distressed to see if I could offer some assistance, but most of the time I let it go because I didn't want to intrude.
However, when I think about it, when I went to visit my peers about something and they were down, I almost always took some time to listen to them and try to help them feel validated to improve their day. Sure, I'll admit that it also ended up helping me with the issue I came to see them with, but I don't think there's anything wrong with taking care of yourself by making someone else feel good. I'll be selfish in that regard if need be.
Anyway, here's the video, and I hope you watch it, like it, then tell me your thoughts about it.
Awesome video!
I saw this video awhile ago and loved it! It reminded me of how simple it is to show someone you care. THANKS for this warm and welcome reminder, Mitch. Sending validation your way!
WendyY
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Thanks Wendy. I have to admit that when I saw it was 16 minutes I initially groaned, but I’m really glad I watched it and was able to share it as well.
Mitch, I have to agree, 16 minutes threw me for a loop but decided to watch. This video is amazing and hopefully I will make someone’s life better after seeing it.
Thanks Sue, and I’m glad you watched the entire thing. I need to continue trying to see if I can live up to this concept as well.
A message for all to see.
Its a reminder for us all ~ its the ‘little’ things that mean the most.
If everyone regardless of their status in life would understand how easy it really is.
All it takes is a simple act of kindness, or words of encouragement and/or acknowledgement to let someone know they matter ~ they truly do.
How much happier would the world be then??!!
Thank you for your comment, Betsy. It reminds me of Carol Burnett saying that whenever she encountered someone who seemed to be having a bad day, she’d compliment them on something and suddenly all seemed right with the world.
This is good. It helps when you feel you are the best at what you do and you always give 120% but it never seems good enough. People do not know the meaning of validation anymore and need to get back to what is important. Thanks Mitch
Thank you Debbie, for both watching it and commenting on it here. This type of thing works more than most people can imagine, and I’m often surprised it’s not practiced as much.
If more people (employers, employees, managers, supervisors, customers, teachers) would “see” the people they interact with, relationships would flourish. And one can be sincere in their compliments!
Great point Sue, and I thank you for that because I agree wholeheartedly.
This sort of validation tends to drive the concept of “pay it forward” – it leaves the recipient in such a good state of mind that s/he is much more likely driven to validate someone else. It’s the sort of thing that, with a very small effort, could catch on.
Thanks for sharing. And thanks for expressing the importance of sitting down and watching an entire 16 minute video (where have our attention spans gone?)
Thanks Kurt. Isn’t it something, we really don’t take the time for things like this and even I almost just passed it by because of its length. And you’re right, it’s like that insurance commercial where each person’s positive action passes on to the next person.
I think I lift people up quite a lot with my blog, especially the humorous posts on birds and the recent cartoons, and that’s my contribution to helping people feel happy.
I watched the whole video. It reminded me of how I used to rarely smile but when Bruce and I got together he brought out that side of me that had been missing for so many years, to the extent that when my dad photographed me and told me to ‘stop making silly faces’ I said to him, “I’m not making silly faces, dad, I’m smiling. You’re just not used to seeing me smile.”
Thanks for this, Mitch. I’ve seen the video before but not for a long time.
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Glad to present it so you could see it again, Val. I used to gravitate towards people who seemed like they didn’t know how to smile for whatever reason and then I’d work on making them smile.
16 minutes kept me from watching it until now which works out since this is a great video to start off a new year! It helped also that TJ Thyne is an all-time favorite 🙂 It is the little things that help make someone’s day brighter. I need to remember that more.
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Krystal, glad you finally watched it, and you’re right, it is a great way to bring in the new year. But isn’t it a shame that it’s hard for all of us to find a random 15 to 30 minutes to watch something like this?
It is pretty sad, especially for me since I do have time on my hands. My issue is often when I get home from work for the day, turning on my computer is the last thing I want to do so then I forget to watch videos like this. Need to schedule better!
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This was so cute, I really enjoyed it!
And yes it reminds me a little of what we are all looking for & what we should all do some time when we notice some one may need a little pick me up.
Thank you, ♥’d it…
I’m glad you liked it, Tonya. It’s amazing just how far a few comments can go to make us all feel pretty special.