7 responses

  1. Carl
    May 7, 2012

    Haha, to some extends I always argue with my friends almost at any topic until we get to the point. About positive response, I often forget to do it, even I forgot to write a positive review for a friend of mine for nearly 3 weeks due to some personal problems.

    • Mitch Mitchell
      May 9, 2012

      I’m pretty good with compliments Carl, as I figure I’m also pretty good at giving my opinion at other times that might not be as complimentary.

      • Carl
        May 10, 2012

        About compliments, I think I was overdoing this in the past, right now rarely and often just to show good manner.

  2. Donna Merrill
    May 22, 2012

    Hi Mitch, I think everyone needs a little reinforcement. Giving those “Kudo’s” to people is not only an act of kindness, but validating their accomplishments.
    Your first paragraph really pulled me into this post. I always think to myself that if I put all my friends in one place, they would all be different. But the one thing they would have in common would be that they are interesting. If they agree with me or not, it doesn’t matter. What matters is they are open enough to think out of the box.
    That’s who I like to surround myself with.
    I enjoyed your post,
    Donna
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    • Mitch Mitchell
      May 22, 2012

      Thanks for your comment Donna, and isn’t that one of the best things about having friends? Something that was strange for the longest time is that my friends didn’t really get along. Each friend has his or her purpose, and separately they were great. But I’d bring them together and they didn’t interact all that well with each other. It took getting to a certain age for everyone to learn how to play well together; stunning but true. And every one of them is great; that’s what I love as well.

  3. Tito Philips, Jnr.
    May 28, 2012

    Leaders build people up, to a great length this involves positive feedback. But then realistically, sometimes people need to be told the brutal truth even if at that moment it might seem like talking them down. I would say the whole balance lies in effectively communicating what the issues are when we are talking people down rather than focusing on the individual. Address the issue not the person.

    Like the example of your friend you sited above, I would say he just wants to disagree for the sake of it. He is disagreeing with you [person] and not really with the issue [idea]. As leaders, this should be avoided!

    • Mitch Mitchell
      May 29, 2012

      Thanks for your position Tito, and you’re right, being disagreeable for no reason doesn’t help get anything positive done. True, a leader does have to let people know when they’ve messed up, but at the same time a leader need to let them know when they’ve done good. And if they never or rarely do good then a leader needs to be strong enough to let that person go and bring in someone else. Balance; you got it right.

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