Last week in this space I wrote an article titled Sometimes People Don’t Want To Be Motivated. In that post I talked about coming across people who don’t like motivational messages for whatever reason. I also talked about the need to not stop trying to motivate people when you can just because some people don’t like it because many others do.

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As with everything else, there’s always another side to this type of issue. I figured I might as well tell my own story because it leads us back to the title of this piece.

Yesterday I wrote an article for LinkedIn titled Are You A Victim Of Your Own Expectations?. I talked about my next book that will be coming out pretty soon and why I’d been delaying it when it’s been completed for a long time. I was more worried about my expectations of how it might be received than by just putting it out, especially the way I’m going to do it, and letting the chips fall where they may.

This doesn’t happen to me often but sometimes I hold certain things back because I’m not ready to put myself out into the interwebs, as some folks like to call it, and potentially embarrass myself. You’d think I would have plenty of experiences that show I won’t embarrass myself, but sometimes it doesn’t matter.

One of my majors in college was music. I wanted to be a songwriter but I kept getting put out there as a performer. I had to play in two recitals, which I hated, but I did pretty well.

Years later, I offered up a song I’d written for a friend’s wedding. The song didn’t quite thrill her but my voice and piano playing did, and she asked me to sing at her wedding. Thus, I had to overcome major fear of singing in public and became a wedding singer for 14 years. Each time I had to pull some courage together beforehand but once I started I was fine.

Almost 14 years ago I decided to go into business on my own. Four months later I traveled to Pennsylvania and had my first speaking engagement. Strangely enough, I wasn’t nervous at all standing in front of a lot of people talking about leadership and health care. I was more nervous putting it together, especially getting it on those transparencies (who remembers those?).

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Even 50 Cent wrote a book πŸ™‚

I wasn’t nervous when I put my first book out to the masses; I never even thought about it. I basically released the book while I was consulting out of town and at the time the only place I mentioned it was on this blog and when I did speaking engagements. I was more nervous sending it to publishers, which included a chance meeting with Ken Blanchard, who asked if he could read it; that was freaky!

At this point in my life and career, I find that while some things remain the same, some things have changed. I’ve developed into a better writer if I say so myself. I’ve got around 5,000 articles online in all sorts of places, including my own blogs. One would think that putting together a new book wouldn’t be much of a challenge…

But it was. It’s taken me two years to put it together, even if most of it was already written; I’m not going to get into that yet since the launch will be pretty soon, but I needed to say that to get to the rest of this tale.

Anyway, the book has been finished since the end of November. It’s been edited, and I had to do a lot of rewrites. Then I shared it with some people who said they’d read it and let me know what they thought…

And not one of them did. I felt disappointed. I followed up with all of them and never heard back from them… I felt a little depressed.

It caused me to basically shelve the book for a long while. Maybe it’s not good enough. Maybe no one will be interested in it. After the effort, maybe I wasted my time. Maybe my friends are being kind by not telling me how bad it is… maybe they were just being nice by telling me they’d read it.

See how we put scenarios in our own heads?

Meanwhile, I continued writing posts here about motivation. I write posts on one of my other blogs about motivation. I’ve done a few videos on motivation. I’ve watched a bunch of other videos on motivation.

Last week one of those motivational videos finally struck home. You know who it was… Oprah! This video:
 


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That was needed! The funny thing is that I’ve always said that you can get 10 people to talk to 100 people about motivation, saying the same exact words, and at the end of the day each person will have touched someone who responds to the message based on how they said it.

I’d been listening to a lot of motivational messages and I’ll admit that most of them were testosterone-laced; hey, I’m a guy! I liked a lot of them, felt a little better after listening to them, but none of them said it the way Oprah said it. I guess that’s why she’s Oprah.

This was last Thursday. It’s what got me thinking about the book again, and I realized that my sitting on it because of what other people said they’d do that they didn’t do wasn’t about them; it was about me. I’m responsible for me, just as you’re responsible for you.

It’s good to ask people for their help or their opinion but when all is said and done we’re responsible for ourselves, our successes, our happiness, our dreams and goals. It’s nice to have someone share them with you and encourage you but that’s not always going to happen.

In my case my wife is supportive of this venture; at least I’ve got her. πŸ˜€

So, you’re being put on notice. Within the week I’ll have my second book on leadership coming out. I’m doing it all on my own pretty much. I’ll be marketing the heck out of it but there will be surprises. I’m going to be serious about it all and I’ll be looking to get other benefits from it as well. Speaking engagements, interviews… I hope to use it to launch myself into the stratosphere.

Big dreams; big goals. At least I’ve remembered that I’m responsible; that’s what really counts.
 

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